Op-ed: Are You Infected With The Discrimination Virus?

In response to gay men who propagate their own stigmas.

BY Tyler Curry

January 10 2013 8:00 AM ET

Discrimination is carried like a virus, spreading through a crowd and infecting the masses before anyone knows what hit them. Just like the cold or the flu, there is more than one strain of the D Virus. Yet each strain has one thing in common, it infects the part of the brain that controls a person’s judgment. Whether it be because a person is fat, black, female, gay, handicapped, or old, the virus infects all the same. It exploits the nastiest parts of a person and shows just how cruel a human can be.

Discrimination is far from sophisticated. In fact, complexity is the antithesis of this vile bug, as it denotes the idea of education, understanding and the ability to convey empathy.  No, the virus is actually quite stupid. It plays on people’s fear of the unknown and that everlasting obsession with superiority. 

In the last several years, the gay movement has enjoyed several tremendous and long-fought victories on the national stage.  Gay men and women can serve openly in the military, the sitting U.S. President publicly endorsed gay marriage and four states voted against a statewide ban on same-sex marriage, a first in state legislative history.  Yet, when an open and honest discussion is held that deals with one of the gay communities vulnerabilities (what it means to have HIV today), we notice a spike in infection rates of the D Virus, and it appears to be a particularly nasty strain. 

As gay men, we learned from the best of them when it comes to condemning a group of people for being different.  Living through discrimination over the past several decades has refined our skills and made our tongues razor sharp.  Now, instead of working as a collective whole – supporting each other and working to strengthen the vulnerabilities we possess – we cast vituperating criticism on those who might fail to be the perfect example of the shiny, smiling figures on top of a wedding cake.

We scrutinize each other for being too feminine, too fat, too self-obsessed, too poor or too pretentious.  We denounce the party boys, tease the homebodies and degrade the gym bunnies.  The gay community has been whittled down into so many subgroups and sub-subgroups so much that you can often find a gaggle of gays discussing and even arguing over which category they may or may not fall into. We laugh about who’s headed to daddy-dom, who is an abstemious twink and who should just retire their halfhearted attempt at manscaping and accept that they are a big ole’ bear. Each of these “categories” holds a specific spot on the hierarchy of gay culture. This process of labeling, division and rank has led to a tenuous immune system, so its no wonder so many gay men have come down with the D Virus. 

We discriminate against other gay men for fear that the heterosexual society understands that we aren’t “that” kind of gay.  Whether it be feminine, promiscuous or (GASP) HIV positive, we want to make sure that, on the big game day, we get to play on our own team, separate from “those” gays.   

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