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![1. Your first time.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 1000 750'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![2. Your first anonymous hookup.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 1000 750'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![3. Your first app hookup.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 1000 750'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![4. Your first time in a dark backroom.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 1000 750'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![5. When he wants to hurt you — and not in a good way.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 1000 750'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![6. Your first time getting catfished.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 1000 750'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![7. Your first kinky play date.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 1000 750'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![8. When he’s overly pushy.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 1000 750'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![9. When party favors were not on the agenda — but he’s using them.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 1000 750'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![10. When there are a LOT more people involved than you expected.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 1000 750'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![11. When he’s angry/aggressive.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 1000 750'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![12. When you get the vibe that he’s baiting you.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 1000 750'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![13. Your first hookup after you become HIV-positive.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 1000 750'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
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![17. When you realize that he’s fetishizing something about you.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 1000 750'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![18. The first time you and your boyfriend take home a third.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 1000 750'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
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![23. When he starts talking about fidelity and being faithful — after you just met.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 1000 750'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
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25 Scary Hookups That Happen to Gay Men
Hookups are scary. There is always an element of fear when meeting a stranger. That’s your smart sense kicking in, your brain going into self-protective mode even as you adjust your cock ring.
A million things could happen. He may look nothing like his pictures. He may be deranged. He may suspect you’re the guy his ex cheated on him with, even if you’re not, and be planning his revenge. He may be newly single and burst into tears the minute you comment on his jockstrap (“Jonathan gave me this jockstrap, now he won’t even speak to me!”) Get ready for all unnerving scenarios as you start your precarious journey through the harrowing world of gay cruising and hookup sex.
Browse these 25 scary hookups that happen to all of us, and remember to always have an escape route. Enter if you dare!