The Flip Side

As is the case with most lists of dos, there are also some don'ts to keep in mind when managing your stress. ''Don't live in denial. 'You can't paint a pretty picture; the economy is what it is,' Segal says. 'But you can take a longer-range view of the situation, and remind yourself that although things are bad now, they won't always be.' ''Don't try to escape the situation. 'Sure, you could go to a day spa or take a vacation to the Caribbean, but the same things will be waiting for you when you come back,' Wilkinson says. 'It can be helpful to take a break and relax, but recognize it for what it is'a break, not a solution. ''Don't be afraid to ask for help. 'A lot of people, particularly breadwinners, could be dealing with feelings of inadequacy,' Parnell says. 'Don't ignore these feelings; be honest about them. It can be a very powerful thing and a huge weight off your shoulders to talk about how you're feeling and to ask for help.'