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Kissing Can Cure Holiday Stress — And Other Tips to Staying Happy This Month

Kissing Can Cure Holiday Stress — And Other Tips to Staying Happy This Month


If you're stressed for the holidays, here are some antidotes.

Too much holiday hustle and bustle can be a prescription for stress, anxiety, and even depression. Many  people feel bad during what is supposed to be one of the happiest times of the year.  

All the holiday fun takes a lot of work. Shopping, baking, decorating, partying, traveling – the additional activities and needs take up time and money, putting pressure on already busy schedules and limited finances.  People often eat more, drink more and sleep less. Sometimes, this season bring up feelings of loneliness, loss and grief. It can all be too much for our overloaded psyches.

Besides dampening the joy of the season, too much stress can affect our health. According to Psychosomatic Medicine, stress can produce secondary symptoms equivalent to complications from diabetes, hypertension or arthritis. Seventy percent of individuals who are stressed experience physical symptoms, lower productivity at work and disruptions in their family and social lives. Unfortunately, many physicians may misdiagnose the patient’s problem and prescribe medications for the symptoms, rather than recognizing the underlying problem. And of course, medications themselves can lead to unfortunate side effects.

Of course, approaching the holidays with a potentially compromised immune system means that stress can be exponentially more damaging to both physical and mental health. It’s important to slow down and savor the season, to reach out and connect with others on a personal level, and to following some of the advice in this blog to stay calm, centered and healthy.

So how can you manage your stress to truly enjoy this season of good will?  

There are some simple—and free—remedies you can use to treat yourself to a happier state. Increasing your positive thoughts and emotions has been proven to positively influence physical and mental health. As a start, follow these two steps:

1.   Savor Your Senses. Enjoy the holiday spirit through your senses of touch, taste, sight, smell and hearing. Despite possibly inclement weather, find some time to get out and enjoy nature. Listen to music. Take a nap. Eat dark chocolate. Give the mistletoe a workout and kiss more. That’s right – couples who engage in more romantic kissing are less stressed, experience higher relationship satisfaction and even have lower cholesterol levels. Be present and enjoy the moment.

2.   Practice Happiness. Instead of seeing extra holiday chores as exhausting, change your perspective. Instead of groaning, “I’ve got six more gifts to buy,” focus on how enjoyable it will be to have your family together and how much less important the actual gifts will be.  Research has also shown that altruism—the  simple act of giving—can improve your sense of wellbeing and reduce stress.

Of course, sometimes stress is a symptom of a more serious depression or anxiety. These emotional states can be linked to medical conditions, and vice versa. Be alert to signs of hopelessness and even suicide, in yourself and others, so you can get help right away.

As a physician, I understand the challenges that doctors have in diagnosing stress-related problems. Making the right diagnosis takes time and can require doctors to coordinate their care.   You may have a better chance of getting an accurate diagnosis and comprehensive treatment if you seek help from doctors in multispecialty medical groups where communication between the primary care physician, specialists and other providers is supported and encouraged.  Physicians who have access to your complete medical history through shared medical records may be able to spot issues that might have gone unnoticed in the old world of paper records.  Also having access to the latest research through the use of technology  helps physicians stay abreast of latest medical knowledge .


About the Author:

Robert Pearl, MD, is Chair of the Council of Accountable Physician Practices, CEO of the Permanente Medical Group, and CEO of the MidAtlantic Permanente Medical Group. The Council of Accountable Physician Practices (CAPP) is a coalition of visionary medical group and health systems leaders, dedicated to the concept that physicians — working together and backed by integrated services, systems, data and technology — can best shape and guide the way care is delivered so that the welfare of the patient is always the primary focus. For more information on managing stress, check out his recent Forbes blogs. For more information on this approach to delivering healthcare and on accountable physician practices, visit

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