When problems with sexual prowess occur, it’s easy to feel like there’s nothing you can do and it can only go downhill from here. These problems are entirely manageable, but it’s important to be proactive. When left unmanaged, these dysfunctions can turn into an even bigger problem called performance anxiety.
The performance anxiety occurs when a man has a negative body image or deals with some sexual problem and feels stressed about it in such a manner it causes even more problems. For example, men with premature ejaculation can develop performance anxiety which can contribute to erectile dysfunction.
Causes of Performance Anxiety
Performance anxiety occurs mainly due to negative thoughts which can be related to sex or any other issue in your life. For example, sometimes dealing with too much stress at work can lead to performance anxiety between the sheets.
Let’s not forget the fact that sexual power accounts for a major portion of a man’s confidence and self-esteem. Sometimes a man can feel pressured to please their partners even though they may not be up for it.
Some men have a negative body image, they can be subconscious about their weight and penis size. This can also lead to performance anxiety. In many cases, this problem is triggered by some other sexual dysfunction. For example, men who dealt with premature ejaculation can feel anxious because they don’t want to deal with the same scenario again and they don’t want their passionate moment with significant other to end so fast.
They can also be afraid of the other person’s reaction. This anxiety can create erectile dysfunction because it doesn’t allow an affected man to achieve or maintain an erection. A growing body of evidence confirms anxiety can cause and maintain sexual dysfunction in both genders. Research shows that mood disorders like anxiety and depression can also induce sexual dysfunctions including erectile dysfunction.
Why shouldn’t you ignore Performance Anxiety?
Unlike women, men aren’t inclined to seek professional help or talk about sex-related problems with their partners. That is a wrong approach and it only causes more issues later on. For example, a study from the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that sexual anxiety is associated with different negative effects. Men who deal with sexual anxiety are more likely to engage in high-risk behaviors. At the same time, they’re also more likely to have casual sex with other people.
They participate in high-risk behaviors to become more aroused and have sex with other people because they see those situations as an easy way out. If they experience same sexual problems again, they don’t have to do anything about it because they have no responsibility toward a casual sex partner.
You should manage performance anxiety and underlying problems stemming from low testosterone to erectile dysfunction because it’s entirely possible to overcome your problems. Ignoring the problem doesn’t solve anything; it can only aggravate it in physical, emotional, and relationship level. Below, you can see different ways to overcome performance anxiety.
For men, sexual performance has a big impact on their ego. When problems occur, your self-esteem decreases. The last thing you want to do is to admit to someone you have a problem, especially with your partner. That’s exactly what you should do! Communication is vital for the success of every relationship and performance anxiety, like many other sex-related problems, could stem from problems between two people.
Feel free to have an open and honest conversation with your significant other. This will help you understand each other and work together to solve both relationship and sexual problems.
Take it easy
Nobody likes to experience problems between the sheets, but they happen. That’s life! Sometimes your sexual performance is on fire while in other cases it’s not. Both men and women deal with sexual malfunctions.
The problem occurs when we start thinking it’s impossible to do anything about it, but the reality is that numerous management options are available. Take it easy; admit you have a sexual issue that requires management and be proactive.
Have realistic expectations
Performance anxiety is a result of negative thinking. It is born in your mind and that is also where it can die. Your penis isn’t making you anxious, but your brain. This can happen due to unrealistic expectations from yourself, partner, the intercourse, and other factors.
To overcome performance anxiety, you should have realistic expectations in sex. Remember, real-life sex isn’t the same as intercourse you see in porn and striving to be on that “level” can only enhance anxiety.
A healthy attitude toward sex is important and it’s important to understand limitations of your and partner’s performance. This is yet another subject you and your loved one can talk about. Tell the other person what you expect from them in bed and let them do the same. Compromise.
Don’t focus on sexual problems you overcame
When you have a bad experience, you feel reluctant to do it again. When you do, anxiety doesn’t allow you to focus on the experience. Sexual performance anxiety works the same way. If you struggled with premature ejaculation, you probably feel anxious every time prior to intercourse because that’s the last thing you want to deal with again.
The more you think about it, the worse it gets. Go with the flow, focus on your partner and that passionate moment between you two.
Have a healthy lifestyle
A healthy lifestyle is important for every man. For example, regular physical activity and a well-balanced diet can prevent low testosterone or increase production of this hormone, and they can also help you overcome many sexual problems. It’s needless both diet and exercise boost your confidence and culture positive body image.
Other things to do
Practice, the more sex you have, the easier it will be for you to overcome this problem
Get enough sleep
Avoid drinking too much
Engage in foreplay, give and receive
Performance anxiety is a common occurrence among men, particularly those who also had to deal with sexual dysfunctions such as premature ejaculation. Sexual anxiety could be associated with the development of erectile dysfunction.